EugEnE ([info]keeblerx) wrote,
@ 2009-01-15 16:29:00
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It sucks to always be right.
There are those of you out there, you know who you are...

Friends who aren't anymore:

Contact me. I have long since forgiven you. I am incapable of holding grudges.

Friends going through rough spots:

I made a promise to you when we became good friends. If I didn't, let me lay it out for you.

If you need anything, ask and it will happen. If you want anything, ask and it will happen if it's possible.

Friends with secrets or burdens that they can't share with anyone else:

let's do coffee. talk to me. blow off steam. let me know what's up. i'm pretty okay at listening and am really good at advice. i won't mention your problems to another entity.

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[info]diello
2009-01-16 12:02 am UTC (link)
I love you, darlin'. And I'm still figuring out things on the homefront here, so I can at last figure out a time when I have time to leave the house for a cup o' joe...
being fucking cold outside doesn't help, though.

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[info]dihi
2009-01-16 12:21 am UTC (link)
if you don't hold a grudge, what is this "it sucks to always be right" BS about? it's a pretty weird way to show anyone anything about the quality of your "friendship". i've contacted you several times to try and talk and do coffee, and invite you to things, and all i've ever gotten was blown off or no response.

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[info]keeblerx
2009-01-16 02:39 pm UTC (link)
My phone's been off most of this week. I am also out of town.

Also, if it were bullshit, I wouldn't have said it. The quality of my friendship can stand on it's own two feet, it doesn't need this post to speak for it.

How about I give you a call when I get back into town, and we do this conversation minus the snark?

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[info]dihi
2009-01-16 03:22 pm UTC (link)
anyone who thinks they are "always right" is seriously delusional. i don't think you are seriously delusional, so what did you actually mean by it, if it was not a snarky stab? it seems like a really poor way to start any conversation, unless you are just looking for a fight.

i don't see a "good friend" as someone whose first response to a situation is to declare "i told you so". that falls in the category of holding a grudge in my book. it's not helpful, it's only purpose is to make you feel better and the other person feel bad. it's also pretty damn presumptuous. you have no idea what is going on in my life, other than what little snatches you read on LJ.

i admit, i am rather frustrated with you. i'm frustrated by your vague broad statements. by posts that leave me wondering what exactly you mean, whether they are actually directed at me or if i am imagining it. i'd much rather you just came out and said what you actually mean instead of thinking that i should be able to figure it out. sure, i'm smart, but i'm no mind-reader, and our brains are different enough that we tend to assume incorrectly, on both ends.

we absolutely should talk in person, as i think this can all be cleared up. i have been trying to arrange this for quite awhile now. i know you are out of town this week, perfectly understandable. but this is by no means the first time this has come up, or i have tried to work out seeing you. perhaps i should have tried harder, but either way i am frustrated that it hasn't happened yet.

my only real issue, is that you claim to hold no grudges, but i feel that you treat me differently now than you did before. i'm not sure if you are aware of it or not. it is more like you are tolerating me, being "civil" to me, than a friend. you only show up to things to see chris or mary, and seem to have no interest in repairing our friendship at all.

i'm most frustrated at you for that. like i said before, i miss you, and i feel like no matter what i do, you still haven't actually move past what happened. i don't think that is going to change until we are able to spend some time together that doesn't involve other people. i don't expect things to be like they were before, but if really do want to be good friends again, that isn't going to happen on its own.

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[info]keeblerx
2009-01-16 07:29 pm UTC (link)
Nothing you have said in here is incorrect, aside from the speculation, which in itself has truths.

I am very rarely proven wrong. It has happened a handful of times. Usually if I make a statement, it's not to be hurtful. It's not to try to hold things over heads.

I told you so is under the purview of the righteous. Doing the I told you so dance is sometimes about the only thing I get. Mine is generally the position of a person to be ignored or avoided while my friends do monumentally stupid things since I am usually the first to point it out. I also have a hard time being happy for people who are fucking themselves up or fucking up people I care about.

The I told you so dance isn't grudge-holding so much as a reminder to fucking listen to me this time around.

You're not the only one that parts of this post were directed at. I recall a few times when I was in severe need of someone saying all of the above to me, and because some of those times, no one said them, I figured I'd make a blanket statement to those I hold dear, and not so dear.

I do treat you differently than I did before March. There are reasons. None should be public.

You want to do one-on-one time, that's cool with me. If I have a few spare hours soon, I will let you know.

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[info]dihi
2009-01-16 08:15 pm UTC (link)
yes please, let's take this offline. i tend to be misunderstood quite frequently in text. you just told chris you had basically every night next week free except for wednesday. so pick a night and i will make it happen on my end.

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[info]digaazthehated
2009-01-16 03:39 am UTC (link)
Don't forget we are doing coffee tomorrow. Let me know when is a good time, or if you need to reschedule.

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[info]keeblerx
2009-01-16 02:42 pm UTC (link)
Yeah, let's reschedule if we can. Right now I am still in Ithaca. I can't seem to work out a bus at an appropriate time to get back.

How's either Sunday night or Monday night? (or reasonably whichever night this week you're free)

I am hitting Naz's house for Lost on Wed. Otherwise, I think my calendar's empty.

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[info]digaazthehated
2009-01-16 03:10 pm UTC (link)
Sunday probably will work... Monday too if I am back reasonably timed portion of the night.

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[info]nefret_1101
2009-01-16 05:26 pm UTC (link)
damn son, when were you going to confirm with me! I have to make dinner, remember? You are lucky I stalk your blog.

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[info]keeblerx
2009-01-16 07:31 pm UTC (link)
that's a good question. I should check my email or something, eh?

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